I have arrived at a place in myself that I am comfortable being exactly who I am in this moment and sharing it with no reservations. ~ Alicia Keys (2012)
Girl on Fire is about new beginnings, new perspectives and fresh starts… stripping away all the bad energy in your life and taking full control of the reigns and how you want to live. There is something really empowering about finding yourself and your own inner strength.
Girl On Fire will be released 11/27/2012.
Black tea has always been a favorite of mine, especially Earl Grey tea. For finer teas, the rich, savory flavor sticks with you even after consumption. A particular favorite of mine is Earl Grey de la Creme (pictured above) from Pearl Fine Teas. It’s a smooth, luscious twist on a classic black tea. Earl Grey De La Creme is composed of black tea leaves, oil of Bergamot, and touches of vanilla. All come together to give this tea its creamy taste, which makes for a delightful, unforgettable drinking experience. I love it sweetened with a little agave nectar or honey. Haven’t had it with cream yet, but will soon. Because the tea is so flavorful, I’m sure it’s just as lovely by itself.
I came across Pearl Fine Teas while attending The Metropolitan Cooking & Entertaining Show a few years ago during one of its stops in DC. Always open to trying new things (especially when tea is involved), I gave them a go and was taken immediately. I fell in love with the Earl Grey de la Creme, along with the Rooibos Lemon Cream and the Jasmine Yin Hao (green tea).
So for you tea lovers out there please check out Pearl Fine Teas. I think I’m going to have a cup right now. 🙂
Gone Too Soon
Fighting with the world everyday,
Trying to stand firm on ground that changes like DC metro area weather,
Not knowing when it’s safe to be you, or when it’s best to retreat:
It’s safer on the inside—sometimes.
The golden era ended quicker than you could comprehend.
And you were thrust upon the audacity of disgust and hatred
From people you thought were your friends,
People you thought were your family,
People who said they loved you but you just can’t seem to trust.
You’ve walked a line that many people claim they can handle but couldn’t, even if humanity depended on it.
It’s a line that you don’t want to walk.
It’s a line that often runs faster than the speed of sound and light, with a soundtrack that repeats daily.
And you’re tired of hearing it.
Living in a world where people get high off of ridicule and bullying,
One is left numb,
Not wanting to deal.
The help you need never arrives when you need it.
It always comes too late.
You push and push,
And push and push.
And you keep pushing,
But the force always seems to kill your spirit.
It was at first a temporary thing,
But the period of death began to outlast the periods of rebirth.
There’s a lot that you can and have dealt with,
But it’s the pain and its lasting effects
That cut you down to nubs,
The hurt practically defying man’s comprehension of depth.
If you could only find relief,
A sweet release from it all…
The inner light quickly fades.
And you succumb to a place
Where your spirit will forever reign.
You’ll be safe from harm and healed
From a lifetime of pain.
If only it didn’t have to come to this.
You’d still be here.
You could’ve been saved.
© 2012 BuddahDesmond
People say to write about what you know… I’m here to tell you, no one wants to read that, ’cause you don’t know anything… So write about something you don’t know. And don’t be scared, ever. ~ Toni Morrison, USA Today
It’s so easy to get caught up into the formulas for writing, especially if they’ve brought you a fair amount of success. It’s safer that way, isn’t it? But as creative individuals—we thrive when we’re challenged. We thrive when we’re put to the test. We thrive when we let go of our inhibitions, take on the unknown, and, without over-thinking, simply create that which fuels our souls.
You learn more about yourself, others, and the world when you step outside of the realm you call home. Get unsafe. Move beyond the known. Embrace the unknown. Be inspired by the unknown. There’s no telling what magnificence may come about.
You can’t even give a little bit.
You won’t even try.
You fail to do anything that you think is going to challenge your ego.
You’re afraid of compromise for fear of losing yourself.
God forbid you should ever have to change.
But compromise is the key to keeping the scales in relationships balanced.
You can’t be the tyrannical controller and think you won’t get checked,
or think that I’m just supposed to go along with it.
You shouldn’t have to brand yourself differently to make our relationship work.
We have to accept each other as we are;
Else, our problems are much larger than we both can see.
I’m willing to make it work,
But if you aren’t—there’s nothing I can do to make you save our union.
It’s better to be selfish when you’re alone.
And we both know we can do better than that.
So if by now you haven’t changed your mind,
then consider these parting words:
Can’t deny I won’t be sad,
but I’ll get over it;
and you will too.
I’ll just wish you well
And I sincerely hope and pray that you find whatever you’ve been looking for
Cause it obviously isn’t with me.
Get over the fact that no one will ever be the same.
Get over the fact that there are multiple umbrellas, and everything and everybody will
never live only under one.
Get over the fact that most people have no desire to (and will never) reside in the same
space, because complacency is equivalent to death.
Acceptance, change, growth, and progress are pertinent and inevitable.
Let it be!
Do people realize the amount of skill, talent, agility, diligence, and excellence that it took for Douglas to achieve this feat? (Mind you, hair was not in the aforementioned list.) I’m sure it was by no means an easy feat, but when you see Douglas on the floor—she makes it seem as if it’s effortless. She glides through the air like it’s a natural thing—like it’s her second home. You cannot help but to root for her. You cannot help but to get emotional, as she’s beaten the odds. Douglas is out on the floor giving her all and the only thing people can utter are comments about her hair… I’m overcome!
‘”I don’t think people should be worried about that…We’re all champions and we’re all winners. I just say that it’s kind of, a stupid and crazy thought to think about my hair.”‘
I am not my hair/I am not my skin/I am not your expectations (no)/I am not my hair/I am not my skin/I am the soul that lives within ~ “I Am Not My Hair,” from Testimony, Vol. 1: Life & Relationship (2006).
Gabby Douglas is more than her hair. She is a beautiful, intelligent, talented, and gifted young black woman who’s made history. But this is just the beginning of her story. She’s represented our race and our country so well at the Olympics. And if that isn’t enough—I guess nothing ever will be.